Monday, 28 July 2014

Don't lose yourself chasing people | thoughtful Monday

I used to be a bit annoyed at the quote "don't ever chase people, be you and do you're own thing and the right people will stay with you." because I thought, if no one ever made an effort and everyone believed in that quote, then no relationships would be pursued and no friendships would be made. Someone has to be the one to make an effort right?

I honestly think one of the hardest things emotionally is knowing when to walk away from situations and people or when to try harder.  I don't know if you've ever been in a situation which has made you question why you're trying so hard, but I know I  have.

I think in the end this comes down to self esteem. If you're running after people when they back away from you trying to prove that you're worth their time, It's because you want to prove you're worth to yourself.
In the end, if someone were to think you're amazing and worth everything, then you would believe it as-well.

Putting your self-esteem and self-worth in the hands of others is the biggest mistake you can ever do, because they will drop it and you will be left with nothing. Every time it's dropped, it becomes harder to pick back up again. 

I know it's very easy for me to write these words and tell you "don't let your self-esteem be affected by others" and "don't allow your happiness be dependant on someone's attention to you" because I have done these things and It's a very hard and vicious cycle to get out of.  

What I'm telling you is to respect yourself enough to walk away from a situation that makes you question if you are worthy. 

Instead, focus on the little things in life that you find happiness in. Make a goal, plan you're dreams and strive for that instead of chasing people.

That's my thoughtful Monday thoughts for this week, hope you're having a pleasant start to the week, 

Infinite x's and o's